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Resilience Resources

Here are a few resources you can use to help you through stressful times.

Having problems with anxiety or depression? Our Anxiety Tooxbox and Getting Unstuck presentations, courtesy of Cal Poly Counseling Services, have some practical tools.

School work stressing you out? CrashCourse has a list of practical skill building videos to help with time management, self-care, taking notes and managing work/life balance as a student.

Problems with motivation? As the semester goes on, schoolwork gets harder and harder to complete. Here is an article by Christopher Bergland about the neuroscience of perseverance and why it matters. Just an fyi, Bergland has a Guinness World Record for running (153.76-miles in 24 hours on a treadmill) and is the three-time champion of the Triple Ironman, which is a 7.2-mile swim, 336-mile bike, followed by a 78.6-mile run done consecutively. He completed the Triple Ironman-which is the longest non-stop triathlon in the world-in a record-breaking time of 38 hours and 46 minutes.

Not sure about the benefits of perseverance yet? These millionaires might be a good example also.

The stigma of having mental health problems is beginning to be discussed more and more. Students at MIT have shared their struggles with depression and the conversation has even moved to art and literature.

If none of these apply to you or you want more information, HelpGuide.org has useful information from issues ranging from improving sleep to dating tips.


Helpful Apps for Students

The availability of help through technology is a benefit we want students to take advantage of for their mental health. Below are two sites that list several apps that students can use.

National Center for Telehealth and Technology

Anxiety and Depression Association of America


Self Help Books

The Healing Choice: Your Guide to Emotional Recovery After an Abortion
- Candace, De Puy, Dana Dovitch (Contributor)

Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace After an Abortion
- Sydna Masse, Joan Phillips

Unspeakable Losses: Healing from Miscarriage, Abortion and Other Pregnancy Loss
- Kim Kluger-Bell

Peace After Abortion
- Ava Torre-Bueno

Abortion and Healing: A Cry to Be Whole
- Michael T. Mannion

Adult Children of Alcoholics
- Janet Woititz

Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics
- Robert J. Ackerman

Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics
- Julie D. Bowden, Herbert L. Gravitz

The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery
- Wayne Kritsberg

Struggle for Intimacy
- Janet Woititz

It Will Never Happen to Me
- Claudia Black

Healing the Shame that Binds You
- John Bradshaw

Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
- John Bradshaw

Adult Children's Guide to What's Normal
- John Friel & Linda Friel

Adult Children: Secrets of Dysfunctional Families
- John Friel & Linda Friel

Lovebound: Recovering from an Alcoholic Family
- Phyllis Hobe

Healing the Child Within
- Charles Whitfield

Driven to Distraction
- E.M. Hallowell & J. Refy

Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger
- Thomas J. Harbin

Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger
- Thomas J. Harbin

When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within
- Matthew McKay, Peter D. Rogers, Judith McKay

The Angry Self: A Comprehensive Approach to Anger Management
- Miriam M. Gottlieb

Dance of Anger: Woman's Guide to Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships
- Harriet Lerner

The Angry Book
- Theodore Issac Rubin

Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion
- Carol Tavris

Hope and Help for Your Nerves
- Claire Weeks

The Phobia and Anxiety Workbook
- Edmund Bourne

Healing Fear: New Approaches to Overcoming Anxiety
- Edmind Bourne

Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
- Martha Davis, Matthew McKay, etc.

Overcoming Panic, Anxiety, & Phobias: New Strategies to Free Yourself from Worry and Fear
- Carol Goldman & Shirley Babior

Overcoming Anxiety: From Short-Term Fixes to Long-Term Recovery
- Reneau Z. Peurifoy

Peace From Nervous Suffering
- Claire Weeks

Hope and Help for Your Nerves
- Claire Weeks

The Phobia and Anxiety Workbook
- Edmund Bourne

Healing Fear: New Approaches to Overcoming Anxiety
- Edmind Bourne

Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
- Martha Davis, Matthew McKay, etc.

Overcoming Panic, Anxiety, & Phobias: New Strategies to Free Yourself from Worry and Fear
- Carol Goldman & Shirley Babior

Overcoming Anxiety: From Short-Term Fixes to Long-Term Recovery
- Reneau Z. Peurifoy

Peace From Nervous Suffering
- Claire Weeks

An unquiet mind
- by Kay Redfield

Why Am I Up, Why Am I Down
- by Granet & Ferber

The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide
- by David Milkowitz

The Biploar Child
- by Papolos & Papolos

New Hope for People with Bipolar Disorder
- by Fawcett, Golden, & Rosenfeld

Detour: My Bipolar Road Trip in 4-D
- by Lizzie Simon

An unquiet mind
- by Kay Redfield

Why Am I Up, Why Am I Down
- by Granet & Ferber

The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide
- by David Milkowitz

The Biploar Child
- by Papolos & Papolos

New Hope for People with Bipolar Disorder
- by Fawcett, Golden, & Rosenfeld

Detour: My Bipolar Road Trip in 4-D
- by Lizzie Simon

Why are all the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria
- Beverly Tatum

Cutting Loose: A Guide to Coming to Terms with your Parents
- Howard Halpern

Making Peace with Your Parents: The Key to Enriching Your Life and All Your Relationships
- Leonard Felder & Harold H. Bloomfield

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
- David. Burns

Undoing Depression : What Therapy Doesn't Teach You and Medication Can't Give You
- Richard O'Connor

I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
- Terrance Real

Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness
- William Styron

Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability
- - Mary Ellen Copeland

You Are Not Alone: Words of Experience and Hope for the Journey Through Depression
- Julia Thorne & Larry Rothstein

How to Heal Depression
- Harold Bloomfield & Peter McWilliams

The Quarterlife Crisis: The unique challenges of life in your twenties
- Alexandra Robbins & Abbey Wilner

The Divorce Handbook
- James Friedman

Learning to Leave: A Woman's Guide
- Lynnette Triere & Richard Peacock

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life
- Abigail Trafford

Divorce & New Beginnings: A Complete Guide to Recovery, Solo Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Stepfamilies
- Genevieve Clapp

It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence
- Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger R. Hock

Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free
- Elaine Weiss & Michael Magill

Breaking Free from Partner Abuse: Voices of Battered Women Caught in the Cycle of Domestic Violence
- Mary Marecek & Jamie Moffet

Dangerous Dating: Helping Young Women Say No to Abusive Relationships
- Patricia Riddle Gaddis

What to Do When Love Turns Violent: A Practical Resource for Women in Abusive Relationships
-Marian Betancourt

Men's Work (to stop domestic violence)
- Paul Kivel

Buzzed: The Straight Facts About the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy
- Cynthia Kuhn, Scott Swartzwelder, etc.

Addictive Personality: Understanding Addiction and Compulsive Behavior
- Craig Nakken

Educating Yourself About Alcohol and Drugs : A People's Primer
- Marc Alan Schuckit

Beyond the Influence: Understanding and Defeating Alcoholism
- Katherine Ketcham, William F. Asbury, etc.

Surviving an Eating Disorder: Strategies for Family & Friends
- Michelle Siegel & Judith Brisman

Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide to Recovery
- Lindsey Hall & Monika Ostroff

Secret Language of Eating Disorders: The Revolutionary New Approach
- Peggy Claude-Pierre

Why Weight: A Guide to Ending Compulsive Eating
- Geneen Roth

Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating
- Geneen Roth

Dying To Be Thin: Understanding & Defeating Anorexia and Bulimia
- Ira Sacker & Marc Zimmer

Overcoming Binge Eating
- Christopher Fairburn

The Golden Cage: The Enigma of Anorexia Nervosa
- Hilde Bruch

Bulimia: A Guide To Recovery
- Lindsey Hall & Leigh Cohn

Coming Out: An Act of Love
- Rob Eichberg

Now That I'm Out, What Do I Do?
- Brian McNaught

Coming Out to Parents
- Mary V. Borheck

Is It a Choice?: Answers to 300 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gay and Lesbian People
- Eric Marcus

Straight Parents, Gay Children: Inspiring Families to Live Honestly and With Greater Understanding
- Robert A. Bernstein

Permanent Partners: Building Gay and Lesbian Relationships That Last
- Betty Berzon

Testimonies: A Collection of Lesbian Coming Out Stories
- Sarah Holmes

The Gay and Lesian Self-Esteem Book
- Kimeron Hardin

Living Through Mourning: Finding Comfort and Hope When a Loved One Has Died
- Harriet Sarnoff Schiff

The Courage to Grieve
- Judy Tatelbaum

Living When a Loved One Has Died
- Earl A. Grollman

Necessary Losses
- Judith Viorst

On Death and Dying
- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

The Drama and Trauma of Losing a Child
- by Douglas Daher

The Mourning Handbook : The Most Comprehensive Resource Offering Practical and Compassionate Advice on Coping With All Aspects of Death and Dying
- Helen Fitzgerald

Motherless Daughters
- Hope Edelman

Fire in the Soul: A New Psychology of Spiritual Optimism
- Joan Borysenko

The Power is Within You
- Louise Hay

Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy
- Sarah Ban Breathnach

If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules
- Cherie Carter-Scott

The Road Less Traveled
- Scott Peck

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, and Impulsiveness
- Daniel G. Amen

Moodswing (about Bipolar Disorder)
- Ronald R. Fieve

Why Am I Up, Why Am I Down? Understanding Bipolar Disorder
- Roger Granet

New Hope for People With Bipolar Disorder
- Jan Fawcett, Bernard Golden, Nancy Rosenfeld

Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Consumers, and Providers
- Fuller Torrey

Coping With Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families
- Kim Tornval Mueser

How to Cope With Mental Illness in Your Family : A Self-Care Guide for Siblings, Offspring, and Parents
- Diane T. Marsh

I Don't Want to Talk About It
- Terrance Reel

Men in Therapy: The Challenge of Change
- Richard Meth & Robert Pasick

Helping African American Men Succeed in College
- Michael J. Cuyjet

Sacred Manhood Sacred Earth
- Joseph Jastrab with Ron Schmaumburg

Catching Fire: Men Coming Alive in Recovery
- Merle Fossum

No Man's Land
- Kathleen Gerson

Handbook of Counseling and Psychotherapy with Men
- Murray Scher, Mark Stevens, Glenn Good, Gregg A. Eichenfield

Tormenting Thoughts and Secret Rituals: The Hidden Epidemic of Obessive-Compulsive Disorder
- Ian Osborne (1998). NY: Pantheon Books

Treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
- Gail Steketee (1993). NY: Guilford.

Stop Obsessing! Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions
- Edna Foa & Reid Wilson

The Procrastinator's Handbook: Mastering the Art of Doing It Now
- Rita Emmett

Procrastination: Why You Do it, What To Do About It
- Jane Burka & Lenora Yuen

The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play
- Neil A. Fiore

Do It Now! : Break the Procrastination Habit
- William J. Knaus, & John W. Edgerly

Raising a Responsible Child
- Don Dinkmeyer and Gary McKay

How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk
- Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

Parent Effectiveness Training (PET)
- Thomas Gordon

Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the College Years
- Karen Levin Coburn

Never Good Enough: Freeing Yourself From Chains of Perfectionism
- Monica Ramirez Basco

Perfectionism: What's Bad About Being Too Good
- Miriam Adderholdt

Never Good Enough: How to Use Perfectionism to Your Advantage
- Monica Ramirez Basco

Transformation Soup: Healing for the Splendidly Imperfect
- Sark

Too Perfect:: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control
- Allan E. Mallinger & Jeannette Dewyze

Overcoming Perfectionism: The Key to Balanced Recovery
- Ann W. Smith

When Perfect Isn't Good Enough: Strategies for Coping With Perfectionism
- Martin M. Antony

I Never Called it Rape: Recognizing, Fighting and Surviving Date Rape
- Robin Warshaw

Recovering from Rape
- Linda A. Ledray & Linda E. Ledray

When You Are the Partner of a Rape or Incest Survivor
- Robert Barry Levine

Sexual Assault: Will I Ever Feel Okay Again?
- Kay Scott

Recovery
- Helen Benedict & Susan Brison

Healing Your Sexual Self
- Janet Woititz

After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back
- Nancy Venable Raine

Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery
- Patricia Weaver Francisco

Trust After Trauma: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors
- Aphrodite Matsakis

Letting Go: A 12-Week Personal Action Program to Overcome a Broken Heart
- Zev Wanderer & Tracy Cabot

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
- Howard Halpern

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
- Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti, & Virginia Satir

Dance of Anger: Woman's Guide to Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships
- Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Intimacy
- Harriet Lerner

The Couple's Journey: Intimacy as a Path to Wholeness
- Susan M. Campbell

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
- Harville Hendrix

Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide For Singles
- Harville Hendrix

Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner
- Phil McGraw

Communicating in Relationships: A Guide for Couples & Professionals
- Frank D. Fincham, etc.

In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want
- Iyanla Vanzant

Passionate Attachments: Thinking About Love
- Willard Gaylin & Ethel Pearson

Couple's Guide to Communication
- John M. Gottman

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
- John Gray

We Have To Talk
- Samual Shom & Janet Surrey

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem
- Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
- Nathaniel Branden

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem
- Nathaniel Branden

Revolution From Within: A Book of Self Esteem
- Gloria Steinem

Women And Self Esteem
- Linda Sanford & Mary Ellen Donovan

Intimate Connections
- David Burns

Ten Days to Self Esteem
- David Burns

Confidence: Finding it and Loving it
- Barbara DeAngelis

Love 101: To Love Oneself is the Beginning of a Lifelong Romance
- Peter McWilliams

Heart of the Mind
- Connirae Andreas & Steve Andreas

Using Your Brain for a Change
- Richard Bandler

A New Guide To Rational Living
- Albert Ellis & Robert Harper

Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation
- Steven Levenkron

A Bright Red Scream: Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain
- Marilee Strong

The Scarred Soul: Understanding & Ending Self-Inflicted Violence
- Tracy Alderman

Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- Wendy Maltz

Allies in Healing
- Laura Davis (for spouses of sexual abuse victims)

Courage to Heal: Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
- Ellen Bass & Laura Davis

Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding
- Wendy Maltz

A Safe Place: Beyond Sexual Abuse
- Jan Morrison

Ask Me Anything: A Sex Therapist Answers the Most Important Questions
- Marty Klein

Your Sexual Secrets: When to Keep Them, When and How to Tell
- Marty Klein

Intellectual Foreplay: Questions for Lovers and Lovers-To-Be
- Eve Eschner Hogan

Arousal: Bodies and Pleasure
- M. Roth

Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship and Dating
- R. Don Steele

Shyness: A Bold New Approach: Managing Your Shyness at Work, Making Small Talk, Navigating Social Situations
- Bernardo Carducci

The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven Techniques for Overcoming Your Fears
- Martin M. Antony & Richard P. Swinson

How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends
- Don Gabor

Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties
- Jonathan Berent & Amy Lemley

Hidden Face of Shyness: Overcoming Social Anxiety
- Franklin Schneier & Lawrence Welkowitz

People Skills
- Robert Bolton

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
- M. Davis, E. Eshelman & M. McKay

Coping With Stress in College
- Mark Rowh

Kicking Your Stress Habits
- Donald A. Tubesing

Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: Guide to Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping
- Robert Sapolsky

Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life
- Jon Kabat-Zinn

No Time To Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One
- Carla Fine

When Bad Things Happen To Good People
- Harold Kushner

Time Management from the Inside Out: The Foolproof System for Taking Control of Your Schedule and Your Life
- Julie Morgenstern

Stop Clutter From Stealing Your Life
- Mike Nelson

Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
- David Allen

Checklists for Life: 104 Lists to Help You Get Organized, Save Time, and Unclutter Your Life
- Kirsten M. Lagatree

How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life
- Alan Lakein

Living in Balance: A Dynamic Approach for Creating Harmony & Wholeness in a Chaotic World
- Joel Levey & Michelle Levey

Journal to the Self: 22 Paths to Personal Growth
- Kathleen Adams

Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
- Christine Northrup

Eating Well For Optimum Health: The Essential Guide to Food, Diet, and Nutrition
- Andrew Weil

Spontaneous Healing : How to Discover and Embrace Your Body's Natural Ability to Maintain and Heal Itself
- Andrew Weil

The healing Connection
- Jean Baker Miller

A Woman's Book of Life (biological, psychological & spirituality of the feminine life Cycle)
- Joan Boryseniko

The Mismeasure of Women
- Carol Tavris

Empowering Women
- Louise Hay